Ego? Go Away!

Assalamualaikum wbt and peace yalls!



Soooo, ego? Let's talk about ego! The first thing I have to do is to have the correct/real definition of ego. The best way to do that is of course to google it. So here is the definition of ego; a person's sense of self-esteem or self-importance. Let me elaborate this even further (into defining more stuffs), self-esteem is a feeling of satisfaction that someone has in him/herself and his/her abilities. This basically meant that you are very confident in yourself. And self-importance is an exaggerated sense of one's own value or importance - translated to you are very proud of yourself that you are on top of everybody. Phewwhhh, that are a lot to swallow, don't you think? 

With ego being defined, I must say that we(I) mistreated ego badly. Not everything ego is bad. Ego per se comes in two definitions; which are classified to good and bad. Self-esteem is a must have kinda ego, people. How on earth are you gonna walk on this Earth without self-esteem (There are so many earths in one sentence)? So you gotta have that. *wink*

Let's talk about self-importance here. Maynnn, it is a life long struggle isn't it? Because of ego i.e. self-importance is so life destructive, I have had a conversation with a friend of mine on this topic. I felt so conscious that I don't want to have any ego problems anymore but nawhhh ego has to kick in the next second. In need of constant reminders. I am always in the battlefield with my ego (self) and I'd win and lose sometimes. There are no draws, hence the picture. So, it is not a surprise that our greatest jihad is to jihad against ourself. 

Nouman Ali Khan had mentioned in one of his video that you can actually identify whether you have ego problem or not. Quoted, "You get angry when somebody corrected you." I will let you be your own judge. In this context, being corrected doesn't meant that you are wrong or right, it simply meant that when somebody commented on things that you had done. So, there is no right or wrong. There is a verse from Suratul Furqan; Chapter 25, Verse 63,

"And the slaves of the Most Beneficent (Allah) are those who walk on the earth in humility and sedateness, and when the foolish address them (with bad words) they reply back with mild words of gentleness." 

They reply back with mild words of gentleness, of peace. That is a sign of no ego problems right there.

What benefits are you gaining from sticking up to your self-importance? You are only gonna feel bad when someone you are arguing with, take a step back. Don't feed your self importance. 

"Ego = 1/Knowledge. More the knowledge, lesser the ego. Lesser the knowledge, more the ego." -Albert Einstein.

Good day, yalls. 




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Assalamualaikum wbt and peace yalss!

How have you been? I pray for you to be in the best state of iman and health. Ameen.

Alhamdulillah it is finally the wrap up of the Ummah Week, and yes there are so many life changing experience to be a part of the team. Ummah Week is basically a week-packed events focusing on raising money for the needy. So, to raise money ain't nothing easy, people. You gotta work, work and work and that was what we did.

Ironically, I won't be writing about Ummah Week as in for this post. I will write about a grandma that I have met in Aldi. Me and my friends went to Aldi to buy stuff to cook for the Ummah Week. We barely bought nothing as we already have everything. So, not wanting to leave Aldi empty handed, we bought three coffees and a pack of plastic bags.

As we were in the queue, there was one grandma with a trolley and a lot of stuffs. She is really old, in my perspective and I want to help but oh my I really hate rejection. Then, I made up my mind that I wanted to help. So, I helped her to put her stuffs on the counter and she smiled saying thank you. She was trying to create a conversation and she was so nice.

She noticed that our stuffs were not as much as her and she let us to move in front of her in the queue. I thanked her and she said something that pretty much made my day.

"One kindness deserves another."

I asked her will she be alright to put her stuff back in the trolley and she nodded with a punch in the air to symbolise how strong she is.

I know Allah wanted me to learn something, and I know he wanted me to do this in the best of sincerity ever. Because kindness is hard, when you do it without any sincerities, it will be even harder. You tend to complaint and exhausting yourself out of nothing.

Have a nice day, yals!